My Rant on the Stigma of Attachment Parenting

Naturally, many of us practice attachment parenting without even knowing what it is.  According to about.com ,”The goal of attachment parenting is to raise children who can form healthy, emotional connections with other people throughout their life. Attachment parents believe this must begin by forming a respectful, compassionate connection between parent and child.” Sounds good, right?  Well unfortunately, there is a stigma associated with the common practices of parents such as  breastfeeding, baby-wearing, co-sleeping and even simply holding your child.  For some reason, responding to your babies hunger cues and keeping him close to your heart in a sling is seen as disgraceful.  When I came across the image to the right, I laughed because it is so true.  Even if you only practice one aspect of attachment parenting, like breastfeeding, you experience negative feedback from other people.  In reality, there is nothing wrong with bonding with your child and these “shameful” practices are more beneficial than harmful.  One of the most important needs of a young child is to have a trusting relationship with a caregiver and breastfeeding, baby-wearing, etc. help to facilitate that bond.  When I was in the postpartum unit, many nurses were impressed with how calm my newborn was, not crying during procedures or throughout the night like other babies.  This was due to the fact that I was unknowingly practicing “attachment parenting” right in the hospital room (co-sleeping and all, don’t tell the authorities).  As mothers, we must be confident in the way we raise our children because someone will always have something to say.  The same people who complain, are the ones who will admire how peaceful, well-mannered and intelligent your child is! 

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2 thoughts on “My Rant on the Stigma of Attachment Parenting

  1. Reblogged this on Islamopedia and commented:
    I enjoyed reading this so had to share it. As a father of a 10 month old I can relate to the cartoon in that I think I practice attachment parenting to an extent. However, I was blissfully unaware of the stigma attached to it.

  2. I find this subject of baby wearing/ attachment parenting quite interesting and would love to learn more about it. My first thought when I first saw a documentary about it was gosh that looks tiring! I so agree with with you that “As mothers, we must be confident in the way we raise our children because someone will always have something to say.”

    I breastfed for a little over two years and during that time, everyone had their own view of when was the right time to stop and that annoyed me.

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